tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1620025602611232958.post3176309643674844695..comments2024-02-19T02:08:32.593-08:00Comments on A Solitary Journey: Remorse, Repentance and RecoveryBrenda Finding Elysiumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06025525146200651714noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1620025602611232958.post-75845247165129761932014-01-26T17:45:58.470-08:002014-01-26T17:45:58.470-08:00Thanks, Ted and I will check out Jeri's books....Thanks, Ted and I will check out Jeri's books. After studying pedophilia and having lived with one for over 3 decades, I think the answer to your question is complicated. I can understand why your friend's wife would not want to talk about her husband--it is an incredible betrayal that strikes at the core of a wife's sense of identity and belonging.<br /><br />I'd be happy to interact with her via my email address on this blog, if she is interested in doing that. I have found it so helpful to have other partners to talk to--it breaks some of the isolation and shame.Brenda Finding Elysiumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06025525146200651714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1620025602611232958.post-40643264183633917592014-01-26T16:30:29.201-08:002014-01-26T16:30:29.201-08:00Brenda, I found your blog from the Boz Tchividjian...Brenda, I found your blog from the Boz Tchividjian article above, and indirectly from The Wartburg Watch.<br /><br />A close friend of mine is in federal prison for production of child pornography--he was a kindergarten teacher and got caught photographing some of his students (with a school-owned camera, and within the school building). My wife and I are friends with his wife too, but she doesn't talk about it, so I'm glad to read your accounts from the wife's perspective.<br /><br />For the past two years I've been wrestling with two possibilities: that Rob is a.) basically a good guy, with an unfortunate attraction to young girls, and who let that attraction spiral into a dangerous addiction, or that b.) Rob is a sociopathic, predatory pedophile and a master of disguise (I mean, knowing that he had this attraction, why would he place himself in a kindergarten classroom when he had other professional options?)<br /><br />I haven't arrived at a good answer to these questions but sometimes I fear the worst.<br /><br />On a related matter, one that Boz Tchividjian addresses, the response of churches to pedophilia in their ranks has become of interest to me. I wonder if you've read Jeri Massi's "Blog on the Way." http://jeriwho.net/lillypad2/<br /><br />Jeri has authored several books, two of which I've read: <i>Schizophrenic Christianity</i> and <i>Bitter Root</i>, which deal primarily with Independent Fundamental Baptist churches and how pedophiles are often protected in them. As a believing Christian and a Baptist myself (though not independent fundamental) I find her books and blog important to understand what's going on around us and how to prevent it. <br /><br />Anyway, long story short: thanks for your bravery in speaking out, and I recommend a look at Jeri's blog. <br /> <br /><br /> <br /><br />Tedhttp://fromoffshore.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com